The 7 Deadly Sins For Marriage

A lot of times, we are so focused on getting married and living our happiest day that we forget that there’s a day after the happily ever after too. Now that you’re married, what does it take to keep it that way and how do you know your marriage isn’t working? After a lot of research, professionals have figured out the sure-fire signs of a failing marriage.

As long as you avoid these 7 deadly sins for marriage, you’re good to go. 

1. A Lack of Affection 

A common misconception is that now that you’re married, you don’t need to show your partner affection. Many partners fall into a homely routine that does not involve their partners but this leads to the other partner feeling a resounding lack of love, feeling unwanted, and more like a burden. Make sure to reassure your partner that you love them by the occasional loving gesture, effort into date nights, and take quality time out for the both of you. 

2. Unequal Housework Distribution 

Running a household is an effort that is meant to be collaborative rather than falling heavy on one person’s shoulder. If only one person is taking care of all the housework and chores while the other barely move a finger, that is a huge red flag. Not only does collaborative housework lower the burden for each, but is also a brilliant way to spend more time together in domestic affairs, deepen your bond, and make sure that you’re both involved in running a household. 

3. Controlling Behavior 

If your partner is very controlling in terms of what you do, what you wear, where you go and with whom, there’s a big problem. It is not normal to be overly controlling of your partner just because you’re married. It is important to realize your own personhood, own it, and not let it be compromised. Make sure to spend time with people other than your partner, and more importantly, yourself, to make sure you don’t lose yourself in marriage. 

4. Abuse 

This goes without saying but it is ridiculous how many people excuse abuse, both physical and emotional, to keep a marriage alive. It is not okay to be hit, be manipulated, or doubt yourself constantly, and it is abuse. It doesn’t matter if it only happened once, that shows the potential for repeating the behavior. Unless your partner takes full responsibility and is taking active steps to ensure it never happens again, there is no room for forgiveness, especially for your own safety and wellbeing. 

5. Different Goals 

If your partner is focused on building their career while you’re family-oriented, this can be a very difficult one to settle. It either involves compromise on one side, which can be unfair, or disappointment on both. It is important to consider this aspect before marriage, but if it comes up again after you’ve tied the knot, working on a compromise can be very tricky, and sometimes impossible, especially considering this is a leading cause of divorce. 

6. Difference in Spending 

A lack of budget setting can actually be a lot more harmful than you might think. It is important to settle on a joint budget and allocate resources accordingly to both people. If one person is spending too much on unnecessary items, it is important to tackle this problem together so as to not take more than giving. 

7. Constant Bickering 

While arguments are healthy and lead to a deeper understanding of your relationship as well as the other person if you are constantly engaging in arguments that are usually pointless. This can be a cause of other frustrations, more distance between the two, or a lack of time spent together. 

It is important to get to the root of the problem either through deeper conversations dealing with a recurring issue or consider relationship therapy. While this is a leading cause for separation, if both partners are committed to making it work, there’s no mountain that can’t be conquered. 

Conclusion

While the causes for separation are vast and different for each marriage, these 7 deadly sins for marriages are some of the most common and generalized. Make sure to try to fix things and work towards keeping a relationship alive rather than just letting it be.